The way to a man’s heart

          An old adage says that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. How  true is this saying? Who coined it up? Why is it so widely accepted? Apart from this argument, there are several others we shall explore In this topic. Our focus is not “the ways” to a man’s heart but, “the way” to a man’s heart. If you want to please any man or make him pleased with you, you are on the right page. if you don’t want to please any man at all , you are still on the right page. If you are not in any of the above category or are inquisitive to find out the conclusion or accidently came across this page, you are still on the right page. I urge you to read out on as we explore “the possible ways” and locate “the way” to a man’s heart.

Food

There's just something about eating together that creates intimacy. whether it's the Christian communion or the Jewish Seder. Breaking bread together just brings people closer to each other. It may be the family dinner or neighborhood picnic, the eating of food brings people closer, either groups or families or organizations.

It is a known fact that couples get closer when they start eating together , but is the eating together the factor or the food itself. In other not to deviate from the topic of discuss, we shall narrow our radar down to the food.

Everyman likes to eat. It’s one of the first pleasures of a man. As a kid he would wish that the whole house was made of candy and ice-cream and that schools have blackboards of chocolate and peanut butter . He may have grown up to refine his taste and selection of food but, the primary love for food is still there, not just any food, GOOD FOOD.

You may say, “ Ah! im a great cook! He devours my meals!” . But ask yourself this, “does he love my meal because it’s tasty or because I am tasty?” The truth is that he is crazy about you, that’s why he is crazy about your meals. In fact, the same food may taste like cow dung in his mouth , if  someone he detests prepared it. It may even be sweeter than yours but it will be of no value to him.

So, is the way to a man’s heart through his stomach? I stand to disagree. If the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, why is he not in love with every restaurant owner or hotel waitress that present his meals? Why is he not in love with his secretary that prepares his office snacks? Why is he not in love with his personal cook? The reason he is frolicking with the house chef, flirting with the secretary or messing around with the waitress is not because of the meals they prepare or serve. It’s because of something else. That, you will find out very soon.

Sex

Everyman likes sex. A man once said, “Sex is the sweetest… yet it is tasteless” .  I wrote a comprehensive article on sex see http://st-princex.blogspot.com/2012/07/sex-mystery-and-myth.html  and http://st-princex.blogspot.com/2012/07/laws-of-sex.html   so I would not say much on it.

 But , is sex the way to a man’s heart ? okay, let me be more specific ; Is good sex the way to a man’s heart? When I say “good” I do not wish to arouse queries as to techniques and styles , but my focus is on the satisfaction of a man.  if you say , “boy I satisfy him real good” . You may also take note that a prostitute would do the same, even better!

If the theory that , “the way to a man’s heart  is through sex” , then everyman would marry a prostitute( I say this, not that prostitutes are the only ones that can satisfy a man sexually but they are a common example we can all relate with). Never be of the notion that he is around you because you are the best in sex. No matter how good you are , there is still someone out there better than you! Because he enjoys sex with you doesn’t mean he wouldn’t or better still, doesn’t with anybody else.

Know that he loves having sex with you not because he enjoys it(for a man will always enjoy sex), but because he enjoys you!  You are the object of his desire for sex. If he doesn’t enjoy you , the sex is no different from any other he has had in his life.

The way not to a man’s heart

Sex and food may point to “the way”, but what actually is “the way” to a man’s heart.  To get to this answer, like all other answers we have to journey from the known to the unknown. Let us take a look at the ways not a man’s heart.

Being another Mother or Big Sister

Throughout a man’s growing years, he has always taken instruction from either his parents, guardians or older siblings. When he has taken manly responsibilities (becomes a man), he may still relate with the “father figure” but he would vehemently resist the “mother figure” or “big sis figure” , when it comes to instructions.

Ladies, Never tell a man what to do. He will always resist you. It’s not that you are doing something wrong but he is only being manly. You may be right in your motives and mayhap your instruction may be the key, but as long as you present yourself as another “mother” or “big sis”, he will not take it. You may ask, “is it wrong for a woman to tell a man what to do?” there is nothing wrong in it. Its just that men don’t like being told what to do by women, and he has learnt this fact from his childhood, only that he couldn’t do anything about it.

There are many ways to make a man to what you want without “telling him”. This I will cover completely in my upcoming article “How to Possess a Man” .  Never confuse my language, when I say, “tell him”, I mean instruct him, or command him or boss him to doing things.

          You will never get to a man’s heart if you appear to be another mother or big sister. I do not mean in the aspect of care and support. There are many ways to get a man to do what you want. And wise women have been able to control the hardest of men, through simple techniques which I will cover in the upcoming article.

Being a Sticker

Don’t be a sticker! By this I mean do not be the type that tails him everywhere and anywhere, even to the bathroom. This attitude is mainly exhibited by insecure ladies. But this doesn’t guarantee that he won’t be promiscuous. Everyman likes to be free, even if he is not free , he wants to have a feeling of freedom. Because he wants to travel and spend some time visiting a friend doesn’t mean he is frolicking around. Or because he likes to spend time every Friday with the boys doesn’t mean he is visiting a strip house. You should learn to allow him some space. He was with you in the house, he was with you at lunch and he was with you at dinner, why cant you let he be on his own even if it’s for the weekend. The more you close mark a guy, the more he becomes weary of your company. Give him some space and in no time you will be getting “I miss you”, calls every minute. As they say , “Give the dog a bone, leave the dog alone, let the dog roam, he will find his way home”. So so  true about the man. Being a sticker is one of the ways not to a man’s  heart.

Being a change demander

Stop trying to change a man. he will not change. At least not the way you are expecting. It is a futile effort to want to change him, in fact it’s very dangerous because such change may at the end turn against you.  monitor how often you ask him to change in order to please you and then cut that number in half if not all together. Many women, once they catch a man’s romantic attention, get busy trying to change him. Once he is yours his “deficiencies” come to the surface. Perhaps he needs a better wardrobe, better manners, to spend either more or less time with the children, to help with the housework but, don’t try to make him into something he is not. Women do not ask their girlfriends to change things about their personalities, behavior, or dress in order to remain in relationship. Why do we do it with men?

The only way to a man’s heart

The only way to a man’s heart is by MAKING HIM THE MAN. if a man doesn’t feel like a man where you are, his days are numbered in your presence. What other way to make him feel like a man than to show him respect. Respect is the language of love men hear, feel, and respond to. An excellent way to show him respect is to stop gossiping about him! There is a difference between processing your relationship issues with one or two close girlfriends who hold you accountable for what you create in the relationship and bashing your   man to everyone who will listen. Bashing him to friends within his hearing as if you are being cute and funny and it is all right with him doesn’t cut it either! Even if he tolerates it, that is called emasculation and is the exact opposite of respect.

Let him rule. Every man was created to rule. And the first domain of his rule is his lover. If you do not allow him rule over you, you would create an incomplete man. I’m not asking you to give him total control over yourself but im asking you to make him feel he has total control. Call him master! Call him lord! Chairman! Big Daddy! This is not a strange phenomenon with women. Even Sarah called Abraham lord (1 pet 3:6).

 Submit to him . Let him have his way. Let him decide in issues of food and even sex. Let him decide your clothes, your shoes, even your underwear! That way you create a territory he would never seek to abandon, a domain he would protect with the last drop of his blood.

Be loyal, show him your loyalty. In his mistakes, don’t abandon him. If you are loyal to him, he would forever stay with you no matter what.

          In summary the only way to a man’s heart is not through food or sex, but through LETTING HIM BETHE MAN. By this I mean allowing THE MAN TO BE THE MAN

                                           St.Prince Xavier/2012/for the INC